AntiDate isn’t a program or algorithm or app – it’s not automated in any form – which is why we are highly selective in our customer base and wildly successful in our results. Combining modern psychology and traditional matchmaking methodologies with native intelligence and the AntiDate Ambassador network, we guarantee your experience with AntiDate is antithetical to the frustration and failure that characterizes online dating.

Unlike internet dating sites and mobile dating apps, we cull the dating pool for you, and make it our job to recognize the distinction between great people and great romantic potential. We do this by retaining a highly-trained, emotionally intelligent, network of AntiDate Ambassodors dedicated to your romantic success. Because we keep our clientele small and our standards for generating matches high, you might expect AntiDate to take far longer than modern dating apps to produce the desired result. The reality, however, is that AntiDate outperforms online dating platforms immediately - within mere minutes of you signing up for AntiDate, you’ll be put in contact with someone committed to – and excited about – meeting you.

One of the things that makes AntiDate successful is that, in the digital age, a revolutionary approach is one that understands nuances of the human condition. At AntiDate, we leverage this understanding to provide superior romantic matches through a human social network, and we leverage it in other ways in order to deliver results.

A fundamental flaw of dating apps is that they ignore basic truths about modern society; namely that men and women are different across a range of categories beyond the basic biology. With regard to dating, the number of ways in which men and women differ is too numerous to list, but ignoring the differential ability and incentive of men and women to go on dates is, in our opinion, patently silly. The fact that most dating apps simply can’t incorporate real-world weighting of these variables to their algorithms, however parameterized and complex, is why dating apps all ultimately perform pretty much the same – as in poorly or not at all – and have the same widely observed toxic affects on users (watch the video “Economics of Online Dating,” above, for more info about this disturbing phenomenon). These gaps in valanced consideration and accounting for the very nuanced conditions in which people experience genuine attraction, romance, and love is not only a major reason dating apps fail, their consistent failure and platform-independent toxic affects are strong indicators that the basic premise is flawed.

After sacrificing quality match discernment by eliminating the humawn social network and filter, online platforms then commit another logical fallacy by assuming that the economics of dating for men and women is the same. And it isn’t.

All political ideology aside, men and women face disparate economic conditions when it comes to time and money. The undisputed result is that, when it comes to dating, they approach the whole endeavor wielding with different resources and strategies.

Agnostic to reasons why things are the way they are, the limiting resource when it comes to dating is the commodity of women’s attention and time. The way this plays out in the way dating apps magnify a major issue we face as a society: economic opportunity and unequal access to resources means that winners keep winning and everyone else – regardless of time invested or merit – get nothing. It’s why “the top 10% of guys on dating apps get 90% of the dates.” Because women, lacking any other means of discernment, invest the scarcest resource – time, attention, and dates – on a small subset of men who appear to be the most successful financially.

This phenomenon has, doubtless, caused untold damage to the mutual regard and contact initiation dynamics between men and women. And the record low marriage rate in the US confirms that the this strategy – and the dating apps – are aren’t increasing anyone’s chances of finding a relationship that lasts.

AntiDate leverages the economics of dating by distributing the different resources men and women bring to the endeavor more equitably, and more effectively. Because women’s time and attention is the limited commodity in the equation, and the missing function is human discernment, a reasonable answer to the problem is to take the less-limited resource – money – to engage both.

In a way, AntiDate turns the depressing 10%-90% statistic on its head: 10% of women get 90% of the dates, and 100% of AntiDate users get a chance at love based on actually compatibility instead of money.

Having men pay an initial fee and then a nominal fee per introduction, while women sign up for free, and then are incentivized to trust AntiDate Ambassador judgement is probably the most revolutionary aspect of AntiDate as a business model at this day in age; it’s a results-driven resource-distributive model, in contrast to the profit-motivated resource-concentrating business model that predominates today.